Sometimes you hit a personal or business block that just gets. in. your. way.
Whenever I started feeling resistance, I used to work extra hard to get over the present hurdle.
I turned to the experts for advice.
I’d do hours of Google searches, buy online classes, update my site, networknetworknetwork, and frantically flip things over in my mind. I thought that even after years of running my own business, there was some bigger secret that I just wasn’t aware of.
Sometimes, it worked wonders!
I’d get inspired by a business guru, get into a hustle n’ grind mindset, and move things along.
But mostly, I got burned out.
After a while, the last thing I wanted to do was look at my work, or take any more advice from anyone.
I bought courses I never finished.
I was sleeping more and waking up with less energy.
I was stressed the f*ck out, all the time.
I was addicted to the hunt for something that would finally click things into place for me.
I had a never-ending to-do list with the unattainable promise of peace and completion.
I wanted to feel satisfied. I wanted to feel confident in the work that everyone else was praising.
I wanted to feel at peace just being in the moment.
In being ambitious and having a long way to go, but enjoying the journey along the way.
I wanted to sleep well, and take a break, without feeling like I was playing hooky.
My business had become something I felt I had to do instead of something that I wanted to do.
And isn’t doing what you love that the whole point of starting a business?
That somewhere, beyond the insane hours, unwashed hair, and laser focus, you have a fiery passion that just won’t quit?
I kept grinding myself down with every project, and my passion was ready to pack its bags. (So was my energy, stamina, and personality.)
The most impactful thing I learned was…
I was spending a lot of time listening to everyone else.
I wasn’t listening to the most important person in my life… me!
Call it selfish if you want.
I learned that I didn’t need to put everyone else before me to be a good person.
In fact, the opposite was true.
I set boundaries and began to take care of myself, first.
I became a better boss, a better partner, and a better friend.
And other things started to change, too.
I stopped working with people who weren’t perfectly aligned with me and my work.
On a whim, I went to LA for the first time in 8 years.
I got my cast iron tub reglazed and now I take all the baths, all the time.
I worked on a secret, massive creative project for a very influential company, and had a blast doing it.
I started seeing my friends more and co-hosted the most epic Galentine’s Day party ever.
I’ve eaten so much new, delicious food, I can’t even begin to list it all.
My partner and I acquired a parking garage on our block. (If you live in NYC, you know how big a deal this is.)
My point is, when I listened to myself, everything in my life began to shift, not just my business.
When you feel like asking everyone and their mother for advice, I invite you to listen to yourself instead.
Take a few minutes, find a space where you can be alone and close your eyes.
Gently focus on your breathing for a few minutes, nothing crazy.
And when you feel ready, open your eyes…
and follow your impulse.
Maybe you want to
take a nap,
buy that pleather jacket,
call someone you haven’t spoken to in a while,
walk a little slower (so you can smell the earth and the trees),
stop forcing a solution to a problem,
or look at things a little differently.
The more you practice listening to yourself, the more confident you will be in following your intuitive impulses.
Experts, gurus, coaches, and the stars all have their purpose, and they can have an incredibly positive impact on your life.
But in order to make the best use of their advice, listen to yourself, first.
Do you make it a practice to listen to your intuition?
Have you ever acted on an impulse that positively affected your life?
Let me know in the comments below!